Let’s try to open our mind to some CLARITY:
Jokingly, the statement ‘don’t judge me’ can provide some innocent humor. Yet, in some cases, this phrase has been misinterpreted into ‘just accept my actions without holding me accountable for them’. In that instance the use of ‘don’t judge me’ would be wrong.
JUDGING (JUDGMENT) as a verb does NOT mean to “discern” or “discriminate”.
We all can reach judgments regarding various actions, thoughts, happenings etc. As far as passing judgment on somebody because of what they do or have done, only God can proclaim that final judgment. Yes, we can point out right and wrong. Still, only He can determine the consequences for those actions, only He can condemn us and only He can decide our fate. NO ONE BUT GOD!
With that being said, a person shouldn’t judge in that regard, BUT they can HOLD YOU ACCOUNTABLE in TRUTH!
TRUTH is absolute/non-negotiable. Most people will argue that what they believe IS true whether it is or not. This world makes it easy to get what truth really is misconstrued, so much so that we forget that TRUTH CAN ONLY BE TRUTH WHEN IT IS TRUE. An opinion stated in a declarative form does not make it true. Truth can’t be changed just because our thinking did. For example, birth is true, death is true. Truth cannot be cheated or altered, it is constant. PERIOD.
You may have ‘your truths’ and I may have mines but at the end of the day THE absolute TRUTH will stand, whether it aligns with ours or not. Too many times we get these terms confused! We get offended when we shouldn’t and we don’t speak the truth we should. Sure we all have our own opinions (an INFORMAL statement which may or may not be based on fact) and we are entitled to that. Nevertheless, our opinions are unstable and unreliable; they can be swayed by bribes, emotions, religious beliefs, prospective and experiences.
We all have been granted free will but even in our daily shortcomings we can’t ignore truth. We should all be receptive and humble enough to accept truth when it is presented whether we adhere to it or not. By the same token, when truth is presented it should be done so in REAL love and with that person’s best interest at heart, not condescendingly and not in a rage.
This misunderstanding has been going on for some time. We hear and use the expression ‘don’t judge me’ in all the wrong contexts. It’s not ‘don’t judge me’ because in fact I cannot. However, if I’m speaking truth to you in love and you don’t want to hear it then WHAT… ‘Don’t TRUTH you?’