Do You Know What You Really Want?


Relationships are complicated. Trying to get along with another human being AND be madly in love is complicated.

In 2014, do we know what we truly want in a significant other? Age, wisdom, growth, self-preferences and life experiences are all things that help us sculpt out the image of our “perfect mate”. So what do we really want in a mate that is? Let’s try to gain some clarity on what we expect.Times have definitely changed, the things that mattered to our parents might not necessarily take precedent in our lives. It seems as though each is side is screaming for the same thing but not hearing each other. Does he have to be in a certain tax bracket? Could you look past her past? Are you okay with him having kids? Can you deal with her party life? Light-skinned or dark-skinned? Curvy or slim?  Is smoking/drinking a deal breaker?

Whether we realize it or not we all have a subconscious make up of our “him” or “her”. Hence this interactive posting. We want to hear the run down for your ideal mate. I’m sure we all can agree on overall moral traits: honesty and loyalty. But what about the other factors? I’m 23 years-old so what I desire may not fit your liking. I want this discussion to be a door opener to both males and females who hope to one day meet their soul-mate.

I’ll go first!

Check out my list  and leave your own comments/list below. Comments are also being accepted/read on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram! 


“You don’t really need someone to complete you.  You only need someone to accept you completely.”

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6 thoughts on “Do You Know What You Really Want?

  1. Society definitely has created some interesting views on relationships.Heres my list

    Tim’s list
    -Relationship with God
    -sense of humor
    -curves are always a plus lol
    -have potential
    -not a fan of smokers
    -enjoys night life
    -preferably short
    -good taste in music
    -GREAT hygiene is a MUST
    -family oriented


  2. It’s tough these days however to find all the aspects that you would like.You don’t want to be shallow,yet it’s egregious to settle for someone who’s not at least somewhat near you’re level of confidence and intellect.Our generation is a lot different than past ones,it’s almost expected to find someone with tats or a child (I have 13 tats myself,no disrespect to the young mothers)

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  3. Relationship with God (of course)
    Sense of Humor
    Open Minded
    Preferably Non Smoker
    Hard Worker
    Pretty Teeth
    Family Guy
    Black (light or dark)
    A1 Hygiene
    & of course honest & loyal

    I could keep going buy those are a few!

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  4. The first thing that must be taken into consideration is, how many of us really know ourselves? I can only speak for myself, and in regards to relationships, I’m honestly just starting to reach a point of clarity. There never was and probably never will be a formal list of my preferences for a significant other. Knowing and grasping the fact that I am continuously growing and maturing, it would be unfair to place myself or jazmine in that box. If not, our relationship would be in ruins. Fortunately, we’ve both reach checkpoints of wisdom. A lot of the things we look for in partners are actually things we ourselves aspire to be or have.


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